Whether you’re a beginner when it comes to male sex toys, or quite the advanced player, there’s always room to grow and learn about new and innovative ways to get off.

And while it appears that using a fleshlight is pretty straightforward (take an erect penis, stick it in, jerk it, voila), there are a few secrets and tips that you may not have heard of.

Take a look at this step by step guide on how to use a fleshlight, and who knows… you may pick up a thing or two that’ll make play time even more thrilling.

Have you found the fleshlight of your dreams? Whatever kind you’ve chosen, the fact that it has an amazing realistic feel already plays in your favour. But if you warm it up, it can make all the difference. 

You can do this by placing the fleshlight into some warm water for a few minutes, and you’re already off to a good start.

Another useful trick you can use to warm up your fleshlight would be to use lube mixed with water. While preparing a sink of warm water, add a dollop of lube to the mix. Have a little feel and see if the temperature is just-right, and if so, squirt a bit of the mixture into the sleeve. 

By doing this, the lube will create a warm little puddle at the bottom of the device, which is just an added bonus when it comes to the real-feel effect.

While your fleshlight may give you a real-feel sensation, it unfortunately does not have added lubrication.

For that reason, you’ll want to grab a water-based lube. For many, it’s agreed that a thinner lube works best as not to take away from the fleshlight texture.

(Paloqueth water-based lube)

To use a fleshlight, you’ll want to place your erect penis into the sleeve and stroke the fleshlight as you would whilst masterbating. This is the easiest and most basic way in which to use this kind of male sex toy.

A recommendation would be to try and get a smaller-sized sleeve, as it may give you more control over your stroke (unless you’re very large in the penis department).

Now that you’ve got the basics down, here are a few extra steps you can try to enhance your experience.

Are you ready for a hands-free experience? There are tons of contraptions available that can act as a mount for your fleshlight. Some you can use in the privacy of your own bedroom, some are great for mounting onto the shower wall, and some even provide different movements to give you an even more tantalizing experience.

For a different kind of hands-free experience, you could purchase a sex doll, or a sex doll torso. What’s great about a torso is that you can literally imagine any person you’d love to get between the sheets, and go to town!